D I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition
This area is extremely sensitive and a prime spot to invest a little more attention, but the previous Tenuto’s solution was … less than ideal. The Tenuto Mini is most similar to a vibrating cock ring, the kind that wraps around the base of a penis and has a small vibrating motor at the top and, sometimes, the bottom. But while those devices are a dime a dozen and typically flimsy, the Tenuto Mini is rigid, with a small gap at the bottom. A few years ago, I tried out MysteryVibe’s unique Tenuto vibrator and found it somewhat wanting. Creating a vibrator that helps its user maintain an erection, stimulates neglected parts of the body, and is mutually beneficial for both the user and their partner was a noble goal, but one the company struggled to achieve.
Unbound’s Bender Flexible Internal Vibrator features a flexible form ideally suited for G-Spot, clitoral, or overall external stimulation. Bender has a strong motor and a single button for easy speed changes. Bender is on the quieter side, making it a great vibe for travel or those with roommates.
There are many reasons why you may choose to purchase a mini vibrator or a bullet instead of other types of sex toys. The small size of these toys makes them very easy to store, and some products even come with storage cases of their own. Some mini vibrators are designed to look like other products that women often use vibrators, such as a tube of mascara or lipstick. These products are very discreet and are perfect for women who frequently travel.
“It’s great to know that different kinds of vibrators exist in size, shape, and vibration options, but I think it’s a very personal decision,” Dr. Lincoln says. “The beauty of the internet is that you can virtually browse and purchase one that you think might be right for you without having to step into a store if you are worried about keeping things private.” Embarking on a journey of sexual health and wellness is not just about products; it’s about knowledge and understanding.
A combo of vibration and “tongue” licking (lube up for a realistic glide) targets your clit for maximum orgasming power, and you can also hold it against a male partner’s penis during a blowjob to really turn up the heat. You can also feel comfortable knowing your privacy is top of mind — it features Smart Silence Technology, meaning your toy only turns on when it touches your skin. In the sonic sphere, theConnaisseur MJ exhibits many classic spruce-and-mahogany characteristics.
Porous materials, like PVC and elastomer, hold onto bacteria and can never be fully cleaned. Instead, look for vibes made from nonporous materials like ABS plastic and medical-grade silicone—these won’t irritate or damage genital and anal tissues, Dr. Suwinyattichaiporn says. If your sex toy looks rusty, discoloured or just generally worse for wear, it’s probably time to replace it. Similarly, if the battery looks damaged or there are frayed electrical wires, then you should look for a new vibrator. It has an impressive seven vibration modes and eight levels of intensity, putting you in total control of your experience. It also still comes in an attractive, compact (3.5”) case and makes minimal noise, so it’s a top choice if discretion is the name of the game.
Ideally, you should take the material into consideration when choosing your toy in the first place, but it’s okay if you skipped that step—you can look up your toy online to double-check. When you scarcely learn anything useful about the very basics in sex ed, it’s unlikely anyone went out of their way to tell you how to use a vibrator for the first time. For most of us, you literally have to take matters (including whatever batteries you might need) into your own hands.
It’s way too easy to lose the charger, and there’s comfort in knowing you can use any charging cable you have lying around. The vibrations of the Je Joue Mimi felt jerky and choppy at the lower speeds and caused the motor to make wheezing noises. This toy works best if you use it at its maximum setting, provided that the maximum setting is not too strong or weak for your personal tastes. In some cases you can scrub off the stickiness , but we do not recommend using silicone lubricants with silicone toys because we don’t really know how such lubricants will affect the porosity and integrity of the toys over time. Vibrators with “loop” handles like the Dot’s are easier to grip, and toys that don’t vibrate too much in the handle are gentler on hands. Unlike some of the other toys we tested, the Magic Wand Rechargeable is not waterproof.